This month our nation will celebrate a day that has been downplayed by many and almost completely forgotten by others. Father’s Day is an important day for our nation to celebrate and honour men who are playing a pivotal role in shaping the future of our families, churches, communities, and nation.
There are many areas in life where men are discouraged and made to feel like they are less than adequate. Yet, I have never met a man who wants to feel like a failure – especially as a father.
Fatherhood is such a mysterious element of life. Many men come from broken homes, had distant fathers or had fathers that were poor role models. This has resulted in men trying to figure out fatherhood on their own; not understanding the power of having a positive father figure in their life.
Recently, I read a book called Father Fiction by Donald Miller. Donald Miller is a man who tells his own story of growing up without a father in his life. He shares candidly about the challenges this built in his own character and sense of worth as a man. However, in his early 20’s God provided Miller with a man who enters his life and becomes like a father to him.
Throughout this book, Miller explores the lessons his “father” taught him and uses them to teach some of the most important lessons that young men particularly need to learn.
One of my favourite chapters in the book actually refers to a not so great experience Donald Miller had following a Promise Keepers event in the 1990’s.
“I wasn’t the kind of Christian who was good at keeping rules. The rally taught me what a man does, and how loud a man must cheer … but Promise Keepers didn’t define the term (man). I found myself looking for a general definition of a man, because if I had a general definition, I would know whether or not I was one.”
It is in this kind of honesty that Miller helps men who have no father wrestle with the question of what is a man while equipping fathers (or men who will be one someday) to be able to be a good father themselves.
This Father’s Day, I want to invite you to order a copy of Father Fiction for yourself or for other men you know who may need some encouragement in the journey as a dad.
For every man who is a dad, we want to thank you for all that you are doing to influence your children and create a godly legacy.
Keep going strong!
President, Promise Keepers Canada