An Attractive Trait


Put Your Wife First

Key Bible Verse: [Love] does not demand its own way.  It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. (1 Corinthians 13:5)

Dig Deeper: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Humility flows from a secure relationship with Jesus, and from the knowledge that his ways can be trusted.  It is such a rare character quality among [men].  [That’s] one of the reasons why women appreciate it so much and find it attractive.

If you allowed God to [remove] the pride from your life, how might humility make a noticeable impact on your marriage?  Consider these examples:

  • Humility enables you to keep your mouth shut when you are hurt so that your wife is not wounded by your counterattack of words and can more readily experience peace in her life.
  • Humility is okay with using words that build up your wife and does not require a quid pro quo (and “if I do this, you’ll do that” type of arrangement).
  • Humility allows you to listen to her without having to [interrupt] her or have the last word.
  • Humility allows you to say to your wife, “I’m sorry.  I was wrong.”
  • Humility allows you to pursue conflict resolution with tenderness and resists protecting your ego.

Humble men demonstrate authentic love.

They have a way about them that allows their wives, children, friends, and coworkers to feel unburdened and unguarded.

– Doug Fields in 7 Ways to Be Her Hero

My Response: When do I find it difficult to respond to my wife with humility? I will ask God to enable me to be humble even when it’s difficult.

Thought to Apply: Pure Christian humility disposes a person to take notice of every thing that is good in others, and to make the best of it, and to diminish their failings. – Johnathan Edwards (preacher, theologian)

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