Ask, “Is This Okay?”


Six ways to love your wife

Key Bible Verse: A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel. (Proverbs 15:18, NIV)

Dig Deeper: Proverbs 15:1, 18, 23, 31

I used to stand in front of my closet and get mad at my wife because I knew when I finally came down the stairs she would find something wrong with what I was wearing. I would say, “Ready to go?” and she would find fault: “How old is that shirt?” “That tie is too wide.” “Those socks? Really?”

One day, instead of getting angry, I just gave up. I threw on what I thought was a reasonable outfit and trudged down the stairs.

Instead of saying, “Ready to go?” I said, “Is this okay?”

Strangely enough, on that particular day there were no wardrobe malfunctions. I had struck fashion gold and learned a new trick for maintaining marital accord.

The benefits of my new discovery are many. There’s never a fight about what I’m wearing. Less time digging in my closet. I look presentable.

Like so many great ideas for husbands, this one has several parallel applications. “Is this okay?” or “What do you think?” can be used when picking a restaurant, a movie, vacation destination, or any number of decisions that need to be made.

– Jay Payleitner in 52 Things Wives Need from Their Husbands

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