Before You Get Home


Put Your Wife First

Key Bible Verse: For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters.  But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature.  Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. (Galatians 5:13)

Dig Deeper: 1 Peter 3:7-12

What if on your drive home from work, the moment you got behind the wheel, you asked yourself: What can I do to serve my wife and Jesus the moment I’ve changed clothes and start to engage with my family?  What does that look like?

It might be hugging the kids but then asking them to go play for 15 minutes while you listen to your wife [talk about her] day while massaging her feet.  She likely hasn’t had much adult conversation all day. Serve her by hearing her.

It might be a phone call, asking if there is anything you can pick up.  Serve her by [giving] her some uninterrupted freedom.

It might be an invite to take over with the kids so she can get out of the house to do something she has wanted to do all day.  Serve her by allowing her to get away.

And all of this you can do within the first 30 minutes of getting home from work!  Just imagine what could happen on weekends when you have all day.

Welcome to marriage.  Welcome to becoming more like Jesus.  Welcome to the most fulfilling and wonderful life you have ever imagined.  Welcome to being her hero.

– Doug Fields in 7 Ways to Be Her Hero

My Response: I will ask myself the questions from the first paragraph on my drive home from work.

Thought to Apply: Let the wife make her husband glad to come home and let him make her sorry to see him leave. – Martin Luther (leader of the Protestant Reformation)

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