Blind Spots



Key Bible Verse: Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but deceitful are the kisses of an enemy. (Proverbs 27:6, NASB)

Dig Deeper: Proverbs 15

My friend Elizabeth [has] the ability to speak well-aimed, incisive truths that her friends need to hear. Not only does Elizabeth see and name good things in me that I don’t see clearly or have forgotten, she just as regularly points out rough edges. After the birth of my son, she urged me to spend more time at home with my wife and him. I remember her saying to me, “Others can travel and speak, but no one else can be a husband to Sakiko and a father to Joey.” When she sensed that I was slipping into a place of unhealthy emotional vulnerability with someone, she charged me to make sure I had appropriate boundaries in place.

Just as there is a blind spot in the retina of the eye, there is also a blind spot in the soul where we cannot see the truth about ourselves. A spiritual friend will identify our blind spot with love. If they see us walking down a path of over- (or under-) committing to work, making poor financial choices, or placing ourselves in a compromising relationship, they will care for us by naming these things. A true friend will name the attitudes and actions that are causing us to drift from God even as they actively point us to God.

– Ken Shigematsu in God in My Everything

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