Brothers and Sisters



Key Bible Verse: And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister. (1 John 4:21)

Dig Deeper: 1 John 3:11-18

If you are a man who wants to learn how to be intimate with women in a non-romantic way, you must learn how to express your affection to women in three major ways: by forming emotional connections, giving physical affirmation, and showing specific attention.

Emotional connection. You can form emotional connections with the women in your life by getting to know them on a deep emotional and non-sexual level, which will require that you listen to them talk and engage with them in meaningful, in-depth conversation while protecting their heart (see Prov. 4:23).

Physical affirmation. You can give physical affirmation to a woman by affirming her beauty in a non-sexual or perverted way and encouraging her to be confident with the body that God gave her.

Specific attention. Last, you can give specific attention to a woman and show that she is an important part of your life by doing things for her that are uniquely catered to the way she receives love.

Our opposite-gender relationships in Christ should be more than just casual friendships but examples of brothers and sisters loving each other “in all purity” (1 Tim. 5:2). Just as we should pursue deep, affectionate relationships in healthy ways with our biological siblings, so we should do the same with our brothers and sisters in Christ.

– Hafeez Baoku in Sex, God, and the Single Life

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