Chasing Approval



Key Bible Verse: These things were my assets, but I wrote them off as a loss for the sake of Christ. But even beyond that, I consider everything a loss in comparison with the superior value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. (Philippians 3:7-8, CEB)

Dig Deeper: Philippians 3:1-8

As a pastor, I often put my need to be approved by church members above the needs of my family. In the long run, [seeking] worth from approval [also] kept me from investing in closer relationships with other men and fostered a loner mentality. Since the work of the church is never done, being busy brought admiration and helped build an active church, but inhibited my capacity to make hard decisions [and] build deeper relationships with staff and leaders, and no doubt sent messages of disapproval to staff whose “results” were not up to my standards.

Nothing I did in ministry could satisfy my constant, never-ending desire for others’ approval. You can’t keep that up forever and eventually fuel for my work was gone. It was a grace to run out of gas and to hear the Father say, “Son, it’s time. I’m lifting the weight.” He lifted the burden and has been calling me to freedom from work-induced worth ever since.

Perhaps you can relate. You too have learned to measure your manhood by what you achieve and by what others think about your achievements. But what a precarious foundation on which to build your worth. What lengths we go to in order to gain the esteem of others and to prove our worth as men!

– Pete Alwinson in Like Father Like Son

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