Healthy Friendships



Key Bible Verse: So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. (2 Timothy 2:22)

Dig Deeper: 1 Peter 4:7-11

Since I’m not married, my main means of sharing and experiencing intimacy-close, vulnerable friendship – comes from having relationships with people of my own gender. However, I have learned not to disregard the importance of opposite-gender relationships.

Intimacy is not always sexual or romantic; intimacy is non-romantic as well. As I have pursued these types of relationships with the opposite sex, I’ve had to be very cautious to guard my heart and mind from creating unhealthy emotional connections with these individuals (see Prov. 4:23). Yet I’ve learned that the fear of sinning should never keep me from living out God-honouring, intimate relationships with the opposite gender.

Enjoying life-giving, healthy friendship with both men and women is God’s way of allowing us to experience real intimacy during our singleness.

This concept [was] difficult for [me] to grasp. The first two years of my Christian walk, I did not have any female Christian friends. I was notoriously known as the jerk who didn’t ever talk to girls in my community. Through much conviction of the Holy Spirit, however, I have started to see other people in my community as brothers and sisters in Christ, which has helped change the way I love, serve, and enjoy others.

– Hafeez Baoku in Sex, God, and the Single Life

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