Identity Crisis

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 5, 2016

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Key Bible Verse: But as I looked at everything I had worked so hard to accomplish, it was all so meaningless – like chasing the wind. There was nothing really worthwhile anywhere. (Ecclesiastes 2:11)

Dig Deeper: Ecclesiastes 2:1-11

God created Adam in his image, to be his son. That was his core identity. Brought into existence by a God who desired a relationship with him, Adam found great worth. Secondarily, God called Adam to be a leader-worker-provider (Genesis 1:26; 2:15). We were created to be sons of God who would live out our roles as sons in leading, working, and providing.

But because sin entered the world, we [became] disconnected from our identity as sons, and our calling to be workers also [became] broken and twisted. No longer able to find our acceptance and approval in our relationship with our heavenly Father, we turn to work as the primary way to find acceptance and approval. If we don’t have a relationship with our heavenly Father, it makes sense to try to fill up the father sinkhole with work. Without our core identity as sons of God, our significance is tied to our successes, and success comes primarily through achievement.

Dads who themselves are struggling to achieve and wanting approval often set the bar high for their sons as well. [Sons] learn quickly that when [you] perform as expected, you earn your father’s approval. [But] achievements are like drugs; they last for a short time, demand more and bigger doses, but always leave you empty.

– Pete Alwinson in Like Father Like Son

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