Listen Up!

Saturday, May 13, 2017

Key Bible Verse: Answering before listening is both stupid and rude. (Proverbs 18:13, The Message)

Dig Deeper: Proverbs 10:19, James 1:19

One of the greatest gifts you can give to your spouse is the gift of listening. It can be an act of connection and caring. But far too many only hear themselves talking. Few listen. If you listen to your wife, she feels, I must be worth hearing. If you ignore your wife, her thought could be, What I said wasn’t important! or He doesn’t care about me!

Let me give a threefold definition of listening:

  1. Listening means you’re not thinking about what you’re going to say when she stops talking.
  2. Listening means you’re completely accepting of what is being said, without judging what she is saying or how she is saying it.
  3. Listening means being able to repeat what she’s said and express what you think she was feeling while speaking to you.

If your wife shares a frustrating and difficult situation with you, you may stop listening because you view it as complaining. Or you may listen more closely because you view it as an act of trust in you.

– H. Norman Wright in Bringing out the Best in Your Wife

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