Say, “I’m Sorry”

FRIDAY, MAY 6, 2016

Six ways to love your wife

Key Bible Verse: Foolish people don’t care if they sin, but good people want to be forgiven. (Proverbs 14:9, GNT)

Dig Deeper: Psalms 32: 1-5

Show of hands: How many of you have messed up, stubbornly refused to repent, and suffered two or three weeks of the cold shoulder from your wife? Wouldn’t it have been easier on you (and your wife) if you had delivered a sincere and timely apology?

Why are we so pig-headed about this?

If the toilet seat is up, say “I’m sorry.” If you allowed the water softener to run out of salt, say “My bad.” Those are relatively minor infractions. But a quick apology is good practice for when you really self-destruct. When you say something terribly stupid, forget something terribly important, or do something terribly disgraceful, you’ll be better equipped to do what you need to do.

On those occasions, take the following steps to prepare an apology. Find a quiet place. Do several minutes of soul-searching. Decide what kind of promise or restitution needs to be made.

Then go to her. This may take awhile, and it may not be pretty. You probably don’t need to rehash a detailed account of what you did. But you do need to acknowledge the damage you’ve done. Express remorse. Ask forgiveness. The words “I’m so sorry” still work well.

– Jay Payleitner in 52 Things Wives Need from Their Husbands

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